And the longest two week wait of our life begins......
We passed the walk through.
Things to do:
I need to get the background check done.
My mom needs to get the background check done.
My SIL who has *GRACIOUSLY/KINDLY/MOST GIVING EVER* has offered to be our daycare provider needs to get her background check and CPR/First Aid. Speaking of my SIL - I'm beyond lucky and grateful. This child is already felt in our hearts and is happily awaited by our family and friends.
Tonight we met our replacement for "Y" whom I've gotten along with really well over the phone and didn't have many concerns about meeting face to face. Besides, who wouldn't love me- because I'm adorable, sweet and would be a really great mom (and so humble - hee, hee). I was told "L" would be here at 5:30 and had not heard the door when I yelled across the house " WHAT ARE YOU WEARING" and no response from Duane until he walked toward me with a smile and said "THEY are here", followed by me saying in a hushed whisper "WHAAAAAAAT"???????? THEY????? Thinking, I thought it was just "L". Funny, I no longer cared what he was wearing and hoping that they weren't thinking I was a raving banshee.
All I could think of was - Thank G*D I didn't say (jokingly, of course) QUICK- HIDE THE HEROIN, BEFORE THE AGENCY PEOPLE ARRIVE.
Having a person you have never met before into inspect your home and every orifice of it = extremely stressful, having two people you don't know = double the extreme feeling of stress. Total invasion of personal space and privacy, which I 'm not a huge fan of. My home is my sanctuary and my personal private space. I love to entertain and have people over regularly. I assume they are not checking to see if there is an updated ABC brand fire extinguisher hanging in my kitchen and the temperature in my shower is between 105 and 120 degrees. Ours is 109, by the way.
They (L and person assisting/training her, whose name I did not catch) quickly and swiftly went through the checklist and were out in about an hour. Towards the end, they said "Well, it looks good, you passed". Which was kind of a let down, what - no parade? no fanfare? C'mon where is the marching band? We said our Good-bye's and I was about one blink away before I got the crazy eyes going and said. Ok, we'll just remember what a great home this is and please give us your first available child, half joking and half NOT. Thinking "Good Kara, way to act like a psycho". It's all in my mind, the minute we shut the door I asked Duane if I had the crazy going and (like a great husband) said " Of course, not"
So, while I may not be able to celebrate *THIS* Mother's Day this Sunday I find comfort in knowing that I will celebrate Mother's Day 2009, in a very big way. I have a feeling it will be the best one EVER!!!!
The feeling of hope and possibility of parenthood is becoming a reality and honestly, it's been a long time since we have experienced these feelings. A very welcomed change.
Showing posts with label Fost-adopt Process. Show all posts
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Monday, May 5, 2008
Monday, March 17, 2008
April 18th, 2008
I emailed our contact to let her know about our progress on our classes and asked if it wouldn't be too early to schedule the final walk thru. She emailed back right away and asked when would be a good date so I threw out April 18th and it's a go!
Our final walk-thru to become a certified fost/adopt family will be April 18th. After this date, we can be called for a placement(child). Can you believe it??? I almost cannot believe it.
YAY - We are almost at the finish line.
HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY EVERYONE!!!! May the luck of the Irish be with you all year long!
Our final walk-thru to become a certified fost/adopt family will be April 18th. After this date, we can be called for a placement(child). Can you believe it??? I almost cannot believe it.
YAY - We are almost at the finish line.
HAPPY ST. PATRICK'S DAY EVERYONE!!!! May the luck of the Irish be with you all year long!
Sunday, March 16, 2008
Almost done....
Ok, well, that might be a bit premature to say but we are almost done with the required classes. Saturday morning found us bickering at each other while driving to the group meeting place and realizing that we had not had our coffee and this is our third or fourth weekend in a row (and second class for us with the agency this week) of running around Southern California to these very intense meetings with people whom we have never met.
Ok, enough whining from me.
The topics of these meetings are so in depth and to be discussing with complete strangers is awkward for about 10 seconds and then you are reminded that you are all in the same boat. This class dealt with trans-racial adoption which we are really open to. My step-mother and her family are first generation Vietnamese (Ironically, they have wondered aloud why we aren't going for International adoption- Vietnam, specifically), my mother has been in a relationship with a man who is of middle east descent/Muslim and grew up in the UK. My three closest friends are Hispanic/Latin American and Filipino/Hispanic. Yes, I think we are a diverse bunch. We have a very eclectic family so if the oppourtunity presents itself, we are very open to a trans-racial adoption.
At the beginning of the meeting we had to introduce ourselves and state whether or not we had any children (approx 1/2 of the group has adopted and were taking this class for re-certification). As couples went around the room, there was one real sweet couple that received a baby at 3 weeks and was now at 16 months old and going through the re-unification process. The reality of our situation hit me like a freight train. There is a true risk to what we are doing. Then the anger came down.....so people can abuse drugs/neglect their darlings and do other unspeakable things, we take their child and provide them a safe, loving and positive environment with a huge side of - you might have to give the child back to it's parents. This meeting reminded us both that we will wait until we can find a child whose parents have given or are really close to giving up their rights.
The highlight of the meeting was watching a great documentary/video about a couple who had three bio kids and then adopted 2 Korean children and then an African-American boy, Philip. Philip's sister (one of the bio kids) had 2 bio children and then adopted an Asian boy and an African-American boy. It was a really great story and showed how these parents really tried to give them as much of their heritage and background as possible with the resources they had, at that time and some of the experiences they encountered.
There is something draining yet invigorating about these classes. Yes, I realize I just completely contradicted myself.
So here we are, this is the homestretch. Only a few things left and then our home study will be complete:
Get cars checked
Complete first aid/CPR class
Have Sister-in law and mom get approved to watch child
Last required group meeting is 4/10
Purchase a crib/bed (perhaps one of those 3 in 1 deals)
Ok, enough whining from me.
The topics of these meetings are so in depth and to be discussing with complete strangers is awkward for about 10 seconds and then you are reminded that you are all in the same boat. This class dealt with trans-racial adoption which we are really open to. My step-mother and her family are first generation Vietnamese (Ironically, they have wondered aloud why we aren't going for International adoption- Vietnam, specifically), my mother has been in a relationship with a man who is of middle east descent/Muslim and grew up in the UK. My three closest friends are Hispanic/Latin American and Filipino/Hispanic. Yes, I think we are a diverse bunch. We have a very eclectic family so if the oppourtunity presents itself, we are very open to a trans-racial adoption.
At the beginning of the meeting we had to introduce ourselves and state whether or not we had any children (approx 1/2 of the group has adopted and were taking this class for re-certification). As couples went around the room, there was one real sweet couple that received a baby at 3 weeks and was now at 16 months old and going through the re-unification process. The reality of our situation hit me like a freight train. There is a true risk to what we are doing. Then the anger came down.....so people can abuse drugs/neglect their darlings and do other unspeakable things, we take their child and provide them a safe, loving and positive environment with a huge side of - you might have to give the child back to it's parents. This meeting reminded us both that we will wait until we can find a child whose parents have given or are really close to giving up their rights.
The highlight of the meeting was watching a great documentary/video about a couple who had three bio kids and then adopted 2 Korean children and then an African-American boy, Philip. Philip's sister (one of the bio kids) had 2 bio children and then adopted an Asian boy and an African-American boy. It was a really great story and showed how these parents really tried to give them as much of their heritage and background as possible with the resources they had, at that time and some of the experiences they encountered.
There is something draining yet invigorating about these classes. Yes, I realize I just completely contradicted myself.
So here we are, this is the homestretch. Only a few things left and then our home study will be complete:
Get cars checked
Complete first aid/CPR class
Have Sister-in law and mom get approved to watch child
Last required group meeting is 4/10
Purchase a crib/bed (perhaps one of those 3 in 1 deals)
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