Monday, January 28, 2008

Progress is slow but steady

I have to say our agency, or rather our first contact at the agency is awesome. "Y" constantly updates me, almost daily by email as we are passing milestones left and right. We are still waiting for information to come in yet Y asked if we would like to sign up for the first parenting class that is a requirement for placement and must be completed before the home study. I, enthusiastically said YES - we will be there!!!! I'm thinking if she didn't believe we would make it through the approval process, she wouldn't be asking us to r.s.v.p. this early in the game.

I have to believe that this is a sign that we are doing the right thing, at the right time, with the right agency for the right reason.

Here is the thing, something I realized today. I knew we weren't really in control with fertility treatments and it was up to modern medicine and a higher power. With this scenario, I feel like people are in control of our fate/destiny in our efforts to become parents. I really feel at their mercy and I have to say I don't like it. It adds a whole complex layer to the already eff'd up situation. URGHHHHH

Ok - Got the venting out of my system, now I have a date with Ben and Jerry. They will make things good again.


Io said...

I think that's the crappiest part of infertility. There just isn't a way to be in control. No matter how you are dealing with infertility, treatments or adoption, there is always some aspect that is out of your control. Gah. I hate that.
It does sound promising that this woman at the agency is thinking ahead though.
I see Ben and Jerry are two timing me too. You tell those boys that they can have their fun with you, but don't think that I am done with them.

Ally said...

Kara, this is awesome news! I'm glad to see that things are moving in the right direction for you.

I have often wondered about how the adoption process feels similar to or different from trying to get pregnant with the help of medical intervention. I should've known it would have its own set of stresses and pitfalls.

InfertileMyrtle said...

Hope you had a fun date.. which flavour do you like?

Kara said...

My fave is Cherry Garcia, nothing better than cherries and chocolate with cherry ice cream. Yum - Yum.

Thanks for the post, hope all is well on your end!

Kara said...

Io - Correct, my friend the not being in control is the crappiest part of this crap-fest called infertility.

Ben and Jerry are still stalking me from the freezer, but they tell me to tell you hello.

Ally - Thanks for the sweet message. I used to have a carepage before I started blogging (it's a blog of sorts, for medical conditions) and my last post was stating that we were climbing off one roller coaster to get onto another.